Editorial note: rereading for tone, I noticed this post comes off rather cocky. Take it for what it is: my truth. See the forest and not the trees, thanks.
I hope you’re sitting down because I’m about to tell you the secret to life.
Everything you need to know about a person can be found in four things (in this order):
Today let’s focus on the first one. StrengthsFinder 2.0 is the sequel to the book Now, Discover Your Strengths. The great researchers over at Gallup studied human strengths for over 40 years and developed a test for people to find out what they’re naturally good at. They market it as a management/business book but I use it as a personality test of sorts.
Now I know what you’re thinking, “ But Anthony, I’ve taken other personality tests (e.g. Myers-Briggs) and it didn’t change my outlook on life.”
Trust me: Strenghfinder 2.0 will change your life.
I don’t swear by many books, but I recommend StrengthFinder 2.0 whenever I get the chance and have tested about 25 people on my own dime. It makes a great gift too! I’m surrounded by so many people who are unhappy. They want to change their life, but don’t know how. Wouldn’t it be easier to get things accomplished if you knew what you were naturally good at?
I’ll use myself as a case study. My Top 5 Strengths are below:
People tell me all the time, “Anthony you think you know everything.” Truth is, I kind of do. A natural learner, I have the capacity to know everything. And yes I know everyone does, but I’m just much better at it. I pick up things really quickly, especially if it has to do with technology. Learning rules my life: it’s the reason why I do well in school, explains why I get bored easily and am a good researcher (learning requires asking questions).
I can also thank Learner for being good in bed. You ever have sex with someone and they’re good at one thing really well (ie. giving head)? Well that’s great, but being a sexual one trick pony won’t get you far in life. I’m able to adapt to different body shapes, fetishes and styles. This is more than just being versatile, it’s about figuring out what gets the other person off and accommodating. Everyone loves service with a smile.
Now there are negatives to every strength. In addition to getting bored easily (this is heightened by being a Gemini), the bad part about Learner is it tends to make me come off as intimidating. That’s part of the reason why I don’t interview well: potential bosses fear I can do their job better than they can and they’re right. I take their foundation and learn how to improve the process. All the people I get along with (especially at work, but also romantically) aren’t easily intimidated and are secure in what they bring to the table.
Of the 32 strengths, I think Learner and Woo are the most powerful. In sci-fi terms I would be considered an empath.
Basically, what I’m trying to say is I’m Peter from Heroes (and you know he was the coolest)!
Everything happens for a reason and my faith that we are all part of something larger than ourselves is strong. They often call this collective unconscious. Also, I give good advice because I am a good listener and can often see the “big picture” when other people can’t. This is especially key for issues of sex and sexuality.
I’ve never had an entourage. I always had a small crew, usually less than five people I see on a consistent basis. But for those people, I can tell you everything about them: their hopes, their dreams, when they lost their virginity, etc. Intimacy is very important to me; in friendships as well as romantically. Of the people I’ve tested, everyone has at least one strength in common. It’s usually Relator. I think we attract one another.
I’m trying to get better at meeting new people. The negative with Relator is you always want to deepen the relationships you already have as opposed to making new connections.
Connectedness and Individualization interact to make me the ultimate friend/boyfriend. Wondertwin powers unite!
But seriously, I actually hate this strength. It’s part of the reason why I’m single. Being able to see people’s uniqueness also contributes to me being a keen observer; it’s not uncommon for me to know a person better than they know themselves in a short amount of time. Men hate this. It tends to make them feel really uncomfortable and emasculated. If knowledge is power, I’m always in the driver’s seat and most men can’t handle that power dynamic.
But on the bright side, it’s also another reason why I don’t have a type. I can see benefits of all races and Individualization explains my love of men from other cultures. In theory, a non-Black man is ideal because I can see something distinct and different and I learn more because I have to learn about their culture (which also makes me happier in the relationship because of Learner). In reality it doesn’t work out like that because I didn’t grow up as a stereotypical Black man in America so I can see the uniqueness in other Black men as well.
Individualization also means I give the best gifts! (it’s true, ask anyone who knows me)
Lastly, it’s exactly how it sounds: I have some really great ideas. I am fascinated by ideas and think they are connections. And I’m always in search of new connections. This is helpful as I move more into entrepreneurship.
I’ve come to realize I’m so dangerous successful because all my strengths interact very well. I’m getting better at using them together. Another fun part of Strenghtfinder is guessing what they will be before you take the test. I thought my top strength would be Communication, but it’s not even in my top 5. But I’ve learned how to be a master communicator.
If you’re interested in buying the book, please use the link below. Amazon usually has the lowest price and it’s an affiliate link and helps support the site. Also, if you take the test or have before, please post your Top 5 in the comments: I’m looking for more people to add to my army as I prepare to rule the world!