Sunday School – Cooking With Crab Meat

I was in love with a Cancer once and that is exactly what he turned out to be. He’s in remission right now, but every now and then that nigga requires a high dose of radiation.
Trent Jackson – Calm

Visiting Trent in the summer of 2008 remains one of my favorite trips to Los Angeles. This was my first time meeting him in person and he happened to be in a relationship. Meeting someone while they’re in love is an honor and a privilege. You see them at their best; always trying, always putting their best foot forward. I was able to steal some of that energy and get some great hospitality over that holiday weekend.

Weeks after my trip I inquired about their volatile dynamic.

“You obviously care a lot about him, but you’re always really stressed. He’s seems like a handful.”

The Sex Master in me would say there were many red flags: the boyfriend was too young for Trent (in my opinion)…there was just a lot going on. Ultimately there was just a level of maturity that wasn’t being met. But it wasn’t my business to judge and I tried to be as supportive as I could.

It wouldn’t be until I was in a similar situation years later that I realized what the exact problem was: Trent was in love with a Cancer.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with Cancer men (including Trent’s ex-boyfriend) you just have to know what you’re getting into. Three things you’ll never get from a Cancer man: compromise, communication and consideration.

For Gemini and other pragmatic signs, this will be a long term problem.
Oh yes, the sex will be amazing if you channel the fiery banter you have outside the bedroom into the physical. But is that enough to sustain a relationship?

In their defense, it’s not just Cancer men. I think this gem about Cardinal signs (Aries, Cancer, Capricorn, Libra) sums it up pretty nicely:

Many projects get started, thanks to Cardinal initiative, although a good deal of them are never finished. That’s because Cardinal folks are much fonder of starting things than finishing them.

Yeah, about that.

I suppose all this wasn’t new information. When I was younger, my family would go to this all-you-can-eat seafood buffet with the church. I would watch my sister spend hours using various tools just to get a little bit of crab meat out of the shell (even when they’re dead inside Cancer men crabs put up a fight). I just didn’t get it.

Digressing to the boy at hand. I had one saving grace: his love sign was Gemini. But would that be enough? Would I finally get the boyfriend I desperately sought?

Gary Cancer.jpg

Oh my indeed

3 thoughts on “Sunday School – Cooking With Crab Meat

  1. cancer men may be all of those things initially, but like every wild animal, you have to know how to break them (and they can be broken, trust). you were, diego…

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