Category Archives: Quotes of the Week

Quotes of the Week: Expect The Unexpected


tops that don’t eat ass are homophobic.
William Vercetti via Twitter

I was putting myself at risk for sales associate dick.
The Non-News That Is Usher’s Herpes and Why We Have To Do Better

But in time I’ve learned that Daddy-o was onto something and the ugly truth is that in one way or another, White friends, largely, just aren’t safe to have.
Having White Friends Comes With Trauma I’m Not Willing to Deal With Anymore

And what they are afraid of is me *knowing.* And of discovering that perhaps it’s true: We don’t need them, but they, confoundingly, need us.
Son of Baldwin

Black life is now the South. Racism is everywhere. And at least in Atlanta real estate is more affordable than in New York.

So, I wonder, should I go, too?
Racism Is Everywhere, So Why Not Move South? (NY Times)

Between Hybrid Theory and Meteora, the civil unrest that lurked deep in my soul finally had a voice. For so many years, the demons that rattled loudly in my mind quieted the moment I sung the lyrics to “Crawling” or “Somewhere I Belong.” Chester’s voice just spoke every possible variant of sadness, anger, desperation, and loneliness that came along when I was held captive by depression.
When the Person Who Prevented Your Suicide Dies by Suicide

Does this mean we can have a show starring Daniel Dae Kim and Grace Park without those other two dudes?
Jon Tsuei with a good question

Desire and violence run concurrently throughout my world.
The Thrill and Fear of ‘Hey, Beautiful’ (NY Times)

“It’s just hard to believe the dog was nasty when she took Lamby to every green room with her when Girls was still a thing 4 years ago.”
I Can’t Get Enough Of This Batshit Crazy Lena Dunham Dog Story (DeadSpin)

Gay people are no longer weird and scary, and teenagers want in on the party, believing that all that’s required is a rainbow headband and an open attitude…But what’s being lost is the ability to gather as outsiders, in public, after dark, and celebrate that outsider-ness.
When, Exactly, Did Pride Become A Party For Straight Teens? (SFist)

To suppress or manipulate, diminish or demonize masculinity itself is dehumanizing to trans and cis men, transmasculine, masculine-of-center, androgynous people, and more.
Is Healthy Masculinity a Lost Cause?: A Non-binary Person’s Thoughts on New Masculinity

Don’t explain.
Your friends do not need it,
and your enemies will not believe you.
Paulo Coelho

Quotes of the Week: Black Excellence

The greatest hustle in American history begins.
Facebook friend

Don’t try it with me this evening Twitter. I will gather you like last season’s crop.
Charles M. Blow is not the one.

Silly me to expect self-preservation to take priority over racism, I suppose.
Why I’m Skipping The Women’s March on Washington (Colorlines)

Humans tend to have a difficult time coming up with a clear yes or a clear no. They also have challenges with a clear hello and goodbye. Taken together, these four values comprise the most important boundaries you can have. They are the gas, brakes and steering of your life.
Chronogram: Gemini, Feb. 2017

We each have in us a wild impulse-driven rebel who craves immediate freedom and excitement at all costs and a calculating self-controlled despot who presumes the end will always justify the means. The less mindfully we create dialogue between them, the more harshly they’ll fight each other.
2017: Responding to the Unexpected (Astrobarry)

While Venus teaches us about connection, love and forming important unions, the planet also teaches us about our experiences of the opposite: betrayal, rejection and envy. Venus puts us into contact with the entire spectrum of relationship experiences, from feelings of contentment to incompetence.
Chani Nicholas

“The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom.”
Isaac Asimov

I can’t stress this enough—protect your attention like you protect your friends, family, money, etc. It’s among the most valuable things you have.
I’m Jason Fried, CEO of Basecamp, and This Is How I Work (LifeHacker)

Remember today, since we may spend the rest of our lives getting back to this point.
Tomorrow (Brent Simmons)

Quotes of the Week: Late Night Phone Calls

Body count really only an issue if all that practice ain’t been put to good use.

Black people have been marching for more than half a century to secure the rights enjoyed by whites. It has not been enough. We need a different path.
Corporate America supports the fight for LGBT rights. It should do the same for black lives.

White people aren’t the only one’s who are anti-Black. Be clear. Be very clear.
Damone Williams via Twitter

Creating villains is the surest way to guarantee you’ll always have somebody to fight against you.
Reexamining the Outer-Planet Backdrop (Astrobarry)

I didn’t know I needed this until I read it.
commenter Sapphire – How to Stop Other People’s Emotions from Bringing You Down

For almost every high school freshman, your first wrestling match is the closest you’ve ever been with another human being. Each match is six minutes — seemingly a lifetime — of contact with a stranger’s flesh and sweat, pressing and pulling on each other until one is worn down from exhaustion.
Wrestling Taught Me How (Not) To Be A Man (Buzzed)

None of these wealthy new New Yorkers seem particularly colorful, hilarious or interesting, and it’s a big bore.
georgehahn: Is It Time to Leave New York

Sometimes people think you’re mean when you really just mean what you say.
Jermaine Watkins via Twitter

No matter how expensive the truth is, it’s always worth the cost of admission.
chaninicholas; Gemini & Gemini Rising, week of July 18, 2016

Quotes of the Week: For He Is Risen

“This tiny Korean man came up to me and said, ‘You got big balls. I like them.’
NYC’s ‘sex spa’ is grossing people out – NY Post

I could take up the torch and fight for bi visibility and break down walls of gender expression and stereotyping, but I have my hands full just being Black in NYC and trying not to get arrested. Y’all can fight that fight. There’s enough social justice to go around for everyone.
So I went home with a lesbian last night.

Instead, my sadness is due to the health-related death of another black man not even close to the age when health-related deaths are supposed to happen. And I’m just as scared as I am sad.
Dear Black Men, Please Go to the Damn Doctor (The Root)

If PrEP reduced near 100% cases of heart failure, cancer, diabetes rather than HIV would there be a debate at all?
Jamie Murphy via Twitter

TMZ is doing real journalism.
The news is doing entertainment.
And presidential candidates are doing dick jokes.
The end is near.
Trevor Noah via Twitter

He said something similar in an on-camera interview with VladTV, suggesting that he wouldn’t want to hold hands with a man on the street out of respect for his children. In the background of the video an off-camera voice says, “So you’re not free.” A representative of VladTV confirmed with Broadly that the voice belongs to Anthony Cherry, Yusaf’s manager. “It shouldn’t matter who you love,” Cherry says.
‘I Love Trannies’: Boxer Yusaf Mack Fights for His Attraction to Trans Women (Broadly)

You don’t have to be a hit to be a success.
Why smaller iOS developers would be smart to head back to the Mac (Macworld)

Find someone as utterly obsessed with you as Doug Stamper is with Frank Underwood.

If you stop learning, you will forget what you already know.
Proverbs 19:27

Quotes of the Week: Off the Beaten Path

Trying to get ready for #MAL2016 and I keep fucking up my nail polish.
Scooter McCreight via Twitter

Strangest Oscar nomination: “Spectre” for best original song. That song sucks.
One of the few times I disagree with John Gruber

Jennifer Lawrence is that white girl in your biology lab who goes on ratemyprofessor to complain about the instructor’s accent.

I was also asked to audition for a part in “The Martian” (not Kapoor), but I skimmed the script and — no offense — it seemed like a boring movie about a white guy stuck on Mars for two hours who gets fired up about plants, so it didn’t seem worth taking a break from my own projects. (I’ve heard the film is fantastic.)
Aziz Ansari on Acting, Race and Hollywood (NY Times)

But once everyone has declared whether they think cruising is yucky or sexy, no one asks: What is cruising really about? What needs, beyond orgasm, does it satisfy? And why do openly gay men do it when there are so many other options?
Searching in the Shadows (Slate)

When it comes to the suitors, in the US, the majority are blue-collar men who feel disenfranchised from family life, says Zug. Blue-collar men are increasingly falling out of the marriage market as blue-collar women are finding better employment prospects, higher wages and opportunities to move up in the world, says Zug. Blue-collar women have started to see these men as more of a liability than an equal partner, so the men who want to get married have started to look elsewhere.
Mail-order brides: old practice still seen as new chance for a better life – for some (The Guardian)

“In all reality these kids are being taught to survive, and not to live,” Mr. Scruggs, 45, said.
Half of New Yorkers Say They Are Barely or Not Getting By, Poll Shows (NY Times)

In prewar apartments, glossy new kitchens are replacing tired old ones. Limestone fixer-uppers are commanding seven-figure prices. Cocktail bars are opening where fried chicken used to be sold from behind bulletproof glass. And the New Yorkers who lived there are drifting away, their former homes renovated to make way for white college graduates and young families.
Gentrification in a Brooklyn Neighborhood Forces Residents to Move On (NY Times)

For men in America with access to health care, HIV isn’t usually fatal. But it’s stigmatizing, expensive, and permanent.
When Condoms Aren’t Enough (The Atlantic)

The goal is to create a buzzworthy scene, push boundaries, explore limits, and pique the interest of paying consumers. Rarely is pleasure the objective.
James Deen, the Bill Cosby of Porn? A Third Accuser Comes Forward (The Daily Beast)

Quotes of the Week: Free at Last

Minion pumpkin
residual Halloween mischief

This piece should be called “The Down Low: It’s Not Just For Negroes Anymore”
Dehrenstein via NY Mag comments

“If there’s anybody out there who’s an adult and who would like to ask me out,” she says, “please call Harper’s Bazaar.”
I heart Sharon Stone

I’m like a swan. But not in the elegant grace way, in the way I’m surprisingly violent if you get between me and bread.
Sarah Jones via Twitter

My childhood (pre teen) best friend dropped out of a prominent women’s college in her sophomore year to run off to California with her computer programming prof. She got in on the ground floor of some major software firm and recently “retired” with beaucoup bucks. I have no idea what the lesson here is.
If you have an affair don’t have it with a humanities professor?
I dated my university professor – and it was a messy, eye-opening experience (The Guardian)

“I won’t get a better offer,” he said firmly.
Taking A Break for Friendship (NY Times)

From the looks of it, You got all the sugar you need…
I heart Brian Nieh commenters

Most of the single people I know are looking for someone. In general, human beings seem to be happier in relationships. Or maybe happy isn’t the right word.
Quirkyalone is Still Alone (NY Times)

It’s easy to understand where the “fakeness” comes from; there are indeed hucksters, peddlers of propaganda, fly-by-nighters, so people here must protect themselves, but it’s different in Miami. You don’t see these “masks” in New York or Chicago or Boston.
Miami Is So Fake It’s Frustrating (HuffPost)

Ego is cool. I need her to keep the ship afloat, and she definitely has skills to keep me tethered to the world. But she has no wisdom, no new ideas, and certainly no mercy. For that, I must venture a few floors down.
Amy Brenneman on The Leftovers Season 2

Love is another word for obligation. To love, truly, you must be in everlasting combat against your own desire to dominate those who might not have your strength, resources, or status.
The Matter of Forgiveness (Son of Baldwin via Gawker)

Quotes of the Week: Digging Deep


picture at Gawker

Isn’t the point of having an affair is that you can pour champagne down someone’s ass and then drink it?
good question BeyoncesNoPantsDance

Christina that shit!
So mad I know what he meant and I didn’t even watch Eurovision.

What was Play-Doh thinking?
That mommy needs playtime too.

Do you like waffles or pancakes?
Cakes. Always.
Jussie trolling his female fan base.

Who has dated a Puerto Rican man? Let’s share stories.
The replies!!

Cheryl Lynn and Anita [Baker] beefing is like your auntie’s spades game gone wrong and someone stood up.

I have encountered 10x more racism in the gay porn industry than in real life. From the models all the way to the studios. I’m tired of it.
Diesel Washington would be a great interview.

I don’t think people know what to do with a black girl who is free and a father who is fostering, rather than stifling, that freedom.
What If We Were Free?: Riley Curry and Blackgirl Freedom (Crunk Feminist Collective)

Music, like sex, can transport you.
cosign with Terry McMillan

Two passionate souls under the moon.
We can dance my love, under the heavens above, watch our world shed away to a brand new one. A new design that is faithful and true. A new life to share, a balance of me and you.
Something Beautiful

We don’t need me-too, we need new and different. And unless you’re gonna do new and different, stay where you are.
ReCode To Vox (The Leftsetz Letter)

Every place you are in can teach u something. Now if you want to learn it is another thing entirely.
Yolo Akili

For the first time in a long time, I don’t know what’s next. This should be interesting!
Marcus Bellamy

Quotes of the Week: Caviar Ratchet

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“I’d fuck him but he couldn’t spend the night.”
commenter Jai (the man with the plan)
Lucas Entertainment Hires Hung Argentinian Model Who Apparently Killed His Father and Brother (The Sword)

I don’t know, I guess they should be more down to fuck since their holes were made for pounding.
omg what?!
(Gary shenanigans)

Fixing your physical image just to choose the same niggas who rejected you in the first place…

Julianne Moore should’ve won for yelling “suck my dick” at that pharmacist in Magnolia.
@captain_fuck via Twitter

Appreciating Jordan Sparks’ sense of humor more every day.

LoL. Someone said the blacks watched Empire and the African-Americans watched Blackish.

I’m not sure if Bill Cosby is guilty or not, but I DO know that y’all have been letting Roman Polanski and Woody Allen live for almost 40 years.
Vinnie Paz via Twitter

If you’ve been “falsely accused” of drugging & raping women, it’d PROBABLY not be a good idea to go on stage & tell jokes about it.
Franchesca Ramsey via Twitter

Job descriptions be like “Must be fluent in 5 languages, able to work 60+ hours a week, have 3 degrees. $10/hr”
Kitty Azalea via Twitter

Yeah, I was one of the Lost Boys myself, out here putting a price on my body, but what the hell. How long was I supposed to go without any sex? If I can’t get it for free, why not get paid for it?
When You’re Strange (Gilded Moments: Confessions of a Gay Nympho)

Imagine if we loved each other the way some people love Beyoncé.
Donovan with a point.

Accountability is essential. I can’t rock with you if you can’t be person enough to hold yourself accountable; I don’t trust that.
Why Chase and I get along

Protect your joy. Defend your dreams. Stay humble. Sometimes it’s that simple.
alex elle via Twitter

Quotes of the Week: All In

Audre Lorde hold me

photo via dopegirlfresh

(drunk and confused)
Wait so you know a Yolo and a Bolo?
Yes, lol.

still giggling (Scandal humor)

Brooklyn is over. Done. Finished. Brooklyn as brand has overtaken Brooklyn as place, turning itself over fully to the project that was always its greatest work in the first place: the cultivation of a luxury lifestyle.
New York Observer

Lock your doors, people, and tonight, flush your toilet a little harder.
Fort Greene Residents Insufficiently Horrified By Neighbor’s Giant Leaking Pee Bags (Gothamist)

He’s the King of all Gingers!
Prince Harry: I might experiment with gay men if my relationship doesn’t work out. (Pink News)

Contrary to popular belief, opinions are not like assholes, because in today’s gay world, assholes are glorious and sexy and displayed prominently in photos sent to you from potential suitors. Opinions on a date are more like your lesbian best friend: We know she’s important to you and we’re glad you have her, but we have no idea why you’d want to introduce us to her on a first meeting and turn the evening into a serious downer.
17 Practical Gay Dating Tips for the New Age (Huffington Post)

Jennifer Lopez in the “Waiting for Tonight” video is my spirit animal.
Mine too Matt, mine too.

In these economically fraught times, it’s easy to forget that the super rich earned their right to never see you, hear you, smell you, or consider your pitiful existence. Expecting them to share an entrance would be unfair.
NYC Approves Apartment Building With Separate Entrance for Poor People

Got into an argument randomly with the cabby last night about Tyrese’s place in R&B. How does this happen?
Kyle Harvey via Twitter

LOL Rihanna. She doesn’t give a single fuck anymore. She’s just walking around, modeling fashions and yodeling LMAO!!! Get your life girl. I can’t even be mad.
commenter backto1960

We’re constantly told that it takes a village to raise a child. But when I look at the recent epidemic of domestic violence charges against NFL players, I’m convinced we need to take another look at those in our village whom we allow to help raise our children.
Kareem Abdul-Jabbar: Not Everyone in the Village Is Worthy of Raising a Child (Time)

In a lot of ways, these events happening in the world are separating the real from the fake. The weak from the strong…survival of the fittest.
Trent Jackson – Ok. Wait. PAUSE.

All the women in these pages—who went on to become journalists, entre­­­preneurs, real-estate agents, and sexagenarian nude models; who married, divorced, and, in one case, gave birth to a Victoria’s Secret supermodel — say the Playmate title imbued them with a sense of confidence that seems more of a precursor to the sexual freedom of third-wave feminists than related to the objectification and degradation that their contemporaries saw in the magazine.
The View From a Centerfold (NY Mag)

This is a problem much bigger than Facebook. It reminded me of what can go wrong in society, and why we now often talk at each other instead of to each other.
I Liked Everything I Saw on Facebook for Two Days. Here’s What It Did to Me (Wired)

One of the worst parts about loving someone who won’t love you back is the time you waste committed to that person while they’re off doing something without you—loving other people, caring about other things. They show up once in a while and you abide with your undivided attention. Then, when you finally get over it, you wonder why you gave so much to a lost cause.
Stefan Schumacher – It’s Finally Time to Stop Caring About Lauryn Hill

Once you have been mentally fucked all sex after is just a bad handjob!

Quotes of the Week: Always Bet on Black


I barebacked before it was cool.
Mason Wyler (who isn’t wrong!)

White boys fun cuz all them swallow.
Speaking of…(Fallen)

At a trampoline park with the kids. Should’ve done more kegels.
I heart Amy Brenneman

What if I look back on my twenties and regret not getting stabbed by a jealous boyfriend at a ratchet gay club not drunk off weak drinks?
BlacKenGod deep in thought

FAMU is an incubator for bottoms. Every man I’ve met from there of this persuasion loves it in the gut.
Gilded_Moments via Twitter

Why do random people on Twitter have “booking info” on their bios? What exactly am I booking?
Head behind the corner store.
True story.

It’s sort of like if a bunch of rapists were combined into one giant Voltron rapist.
commenter MountDewmU – Comcast Is Buying Time Warner Cable For $45 Billion (Gawker)

He should’ve smashed it instead. You never know what sort of useful items you’ll find hidden away in flower pots.
with some video game humor to boot! (Gawker)

I’m sending you to school there so that you know how to excel and deal with white people who run shit. I don’t care if anyone likes you, or if you like it. That’s not why I’m sacrificing. The quicker you wrap your mind around that the better it’ll be.
Another American Promise

White people scream race doesn’t matter until someone makes their favorite character black.
Overheard on tumblr

Objectivity is adults’ Santa Claus
Miranda Everitt via Twitter

Life in NYC is about watching your dreams die a slow unfulfilled death shortly before you do. Not love.
desusnice via Twitter

Of course, San Francisco won’t truly become New York, and not just because New York’s economy is nearly twice as big as the country’s next biggest (that’s L.A.’s, not San Francisco’s, which ranks eighth). San Francisco is too earnest, too eager to be liked, to truly wallow in its wealth like Bloomberg’s New York.
Is San Francisco New York? (New York magazine)

This country is broken. Or, perhaps, it isn’t and this is how it’s meant to function.
Son of Baldwin

I really do love everyone. I just don’t have time for the bullshit. If it’s not forward motion, it’s counterproductive and counterintuitive.
cosign with Trent

It hurts when you have someone in your heart but you can’t have them in your arms.
Alfonso Bueno via Twitter

I need to work on telling the people that I’m thinking about that I’m thinking about them.
Gabe Bondoc via Twitter

Be true to you.
Jill Scott