What does it mean when someone excludes themselves from dating an entire race based on a few personal experiences? Lonnell Williams You may want to watch these videos before you continue reading: The original interview Response from “the community” Follow-up from Zeric Don’t have time right now? I’ll give you the CliffNotes version: Black Cuban [...]
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My Sex Is Mental
from Growing Up Lammy It’s time for some mind sex, we ain’t got to take our clothes off yet We can burn the incense, and just chat Relax, I got the good vibrations Before we make love let’s have a good conversation Dead Prez – Mind Sex Before we go any further, I have a [...]
Let’s Get Married
Funny story: This weekend I attended my bestie from high school’s wedding. It was a glorious affair: sunset on the beach…I was surely taking notes. We were in Sayville, the town where you catch the ferries over to Fire Island. As we bowed our heads for the opening prayer, we were interrupted by cheers coming [...]
My Single Experience
I’m single because I’m not a verbally validating/affirming person…and a lot of these broken men need that. I’m single because in fact, I can often be verbally abusive. I get it from my mother. And if knowledge is power, my cuts tend to run deeper than most. I’m single because most men want to commit [...]
Band-Aid on a Gunshot Wound
Empowering young people (and all ages actually) to think positively about sex and in a way that benefits oneself, would help people to negotiate what they do and how they do it more safely and sanely… Encouraging people to care more for themselves will decrease their choice to have risky sex across the board, as [...]
When Racism Meets Masturbation
It all happened so fast… I woke up like I always do. If up to me, I prefer having “me time” in the morning; it starts the day off right. I was in the mood for some thugged-out Latin action, so I turned to one of my favorite smut sites: bilatinmen (NSFW). Usually I don’t [...]
Looking for Love (In All the Wrong Races)
Boy, boys, all type of boys. Black, White, Puerto Rican, Chinese boys… – Missy Elliott: Work It When I was in first grade I had three best friends: One was Black. One was White. And the other was half Chinese and half Puerto Rican. From a very young age, I have been exposed to other [...]
Of Boyfriends and Beauty Bias
And think about it this way. Capitalism always trumps beauty—because it trumps everything. -Raina Kelley; Beauty Is Defined, and Not By You Everyone get out a pen and paper! There’s this exercise I like to do with people when talking about attraction. It’s a free-write to a simple question: Describe your ideal partner. No other [...]
Dick and the Disney Script
The belief that all relationships follow the pattern of a Disney movie: “pure love” where both parties love each other, never fight and sex does not exist. Disney Love Complex – Urban Dictionary I watched The Princess and the Frog a while ago and I found myself unexpectedly balling. It’s crazy to think something as [...]
The Rules of Engagement 2011
People say “You don’t know what you’ve got ’til it’s gone.” Truth is you knew exactly what you had, you just thought you’d never lose it. – SheiFenmi It’s that time of the year again! The year of “NO” was really about ridding myself of negative energy that was holding me back. I did great [...]
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