Tag Archives: B. Scott

Final Hour

If you’re going to break up with someone you need to tell them face to face and you need to tell them why. You need to give them closure. I think the worse thing you could ever do to someone is not give them closure.
Joey Diamond – Breakups

I met a man once. Brown skin, a naughty smile that lit up a room. There was an instant connection. He was only in town for a few weeks, but I used what time I had to get to know him. On his final night, we were supposed to have a going away dinner. I called to confirm:

“I’m kind of ambivalent to dinner.”
There was a good thirty seconds of awkward silence.
“I’m sorry, I don’t know what that means.”

In my head I was thinking “Be excited for dinner. Say I don’t want to do this. Just have a reaction! Ambivalent? What the fuck does that mean?”

After all, we had spent considerable time together, the least we could do was have a last supper; even if he didn’t think this was worth pursuing once he left town. Needless to say we didn’t have dinner that night.

bscott wishful thinking.jpg

As you can see, I don’t go through the five stages of grief evenly. It’s usually very little denial, a period of sadness and anger. Lots of anger.

The worse thing you can feel in a relationship is disrespected. A year later, that’s exactly how I felt.

You know what the final straw was? I went to mail his birthday card and realized I didn’t have his home address; only his work. I kind of had a core meltdown. What kind of a man will let you into his body, but won’t tell you where he lives?

Actually, tons of people. People not looking for anything serious. I had answered my own question.

And there it was; the brutally honest truth right before my eyes.

Reflecting on both cases, I think the worse part is the unrealized potential. It’s not like I don’t meet great guys, I meet great guys all the time. But the timing is never right.

They’re either trying to restart their careers.
Or fending off family trying to arrange their marriage (to a woman!).
Or they’ve just been alone for so long that’s what feels safe.

And I get it, I was operating from a deficit once too. But can someone throw me a bone here? I just feel like people don’t even put in effort these days.

Especially when it comes to interracial dating. The differences that initially intrigues you becomes the “reasons” why that person can’t be fully integrated into your life. When you pit potential partner against culture, family and community win most of the time.

At some point you have to swallow your pride and realize you wanted it more than he did.

Video Killed the Black (Gay) Blogging Star

Admittedly, I’m a personal blog whore. It all started with the Asians, you know cause they’re always early adopters of new technology. Back then they were called journals (before blogger, wordpress, tumblr, etc.).

Most notable were DJ Paris and Rickey.org (which has since turned into an American Idol fansite). Over time I found some black and brown boys, some gay, others not so much…all with a story to tell. But what the hell happened to everyone? Continue reading Video Killed the Black (Gay) Blogging Star

Quotes of the Week – Ending 6.6.10

You’re easier than jumping over a MTA turnstyle.

You’re only a whore if people know about it.
Urban Price via Twitter

After Sizzle, porn just doesn’t do it for me.
D0wJ0nEs via Twitter

I don’t have an ass, but I have a really deep throat!

The only time I wish my dick were smaller is when I’m on the toilet.
Wa2 via Twitter

I’m over Lauryn Hill at this point. And frankly, D’Angelo got one more year of me giving a damn.
nOva via Twitter

If you’re going to come for the queen, make sure you can behead her.
B. Scott via Twitter

Don’t bite the hand that photoshops you.
Duarte via Twitter

That mango I just ate HIT THE SPOT! I ain’t had to floss like this since that superhead competition last year!
Will McNair via Twitter

It’s never too early to get cussed out…
Jasmyne Cannick via Twitter

(White airport security guard) We have the same last name, maybe we’re related.
It’s much more likely your ancestors owned mine.
(He seemed upset after that. I have to work on my small talk.)
Marc Lamont Hill via Twitter

I would quit Facebook but where else am I going to talk to people from high school I never liked?
Scott Stratten via Twitter

Okay, I’m new to Twilight. Bella is torn between Taylor Lautner and scruffy whatshisname? Haha. This is a joke right?
Rod McCullom via Twitter

Ok, I’m going home now.
(upset) Why?!
(pointing) Cause he just told me he would swallow my cum and now he’s on his knees singing Lady Antebellum Need You Now, I think it’s time to go!

Blind faith can lead you to fall off many a cliff.
Cornel West via Twitter

Sorry doesn’t count. They’re white!
commenter Kitty Kartrashian (Ranity’s tumblr)

Fleet Week + Sex and the City 2 premiere? I don’t even want to know what NYC smells like tonight.
Karsh via Twitter

My dick is like riding Kingda Ka at Great adventures: Long and fast!
Michael Anthony Miles via blogtv

I do have a theory. Everyone that you meet or make eye contact with in your lifetime, you’ll see them again before you die.
Trent Jackson – 1,000
(I believe that too!)

Sometimes I figure out what I want by realizing what I don’t.
Tyme White via Twitter

The bad news is time flies. The good news is you’re the pilot.
TrinniFlava via Twitter

Fear is born of lack of understanding, the need to control and the absence of love.
iAmShade via Twitter

There’s no better feeling than the one you get when you know in your heart beyond a shadow of a doubt that you’re over it…
Adam Benjamin Irby via Twitter

Quotes of the Week – Ending 3.14.10

It takes real talent to fellate with braces on.
TheXDexperience via Twitter

Saying “DL” in the mens locker room is equal to saying “bomb” on an airplane.
Urban Prince via Twitter

Wow I just read Megan Fox has only slept with 2 men. The other 500 got up and left right after…
Bill Maher via Twitter

Can you write down that thing I may be allergic to before I forget.
Oh you’ll know if you’re allergic. Your eyes will go yellow and you’ll start to feel your insides explode a little. If that happens don’t bother calling me back…just go to the hospital.

“We have been about conservatism versus liberalism,” said Democrat Mavis Knight of Dallas, explaining her vote against the standards. “We have manipulated strands to insert what we want it to be in the document, regardless as to whether or not it’s appropriate.”
Texas Textbook MASSACRE: ‘Ultraconservatives’ Approve Radical Changes To State Education Curriculum (Huffington Post)

If you play mind games in your relationships then that’s exactly what you’ll get, a mind game not a real relationship.
B. Scott via Twitter

This report should be the fatal blow to the argument for abstinence-only, since what they’ve discovered is that many young people think pregnancy prevention is about praying and luck, and that actual contraception has very little effect on your fertility. But they have sex anyway.
Young People Don’t Know Jack About Birth Control (Slate)

iPad is magical and revolutionary. It’s like a baby from Che Guevara and Houdini.
Fernando Lins via Twitter

There was a time, after court-ordered integration, when readers complained about front-page photos of blacks mixing with whites. Today, photo images of same-sex couples capture the same reality of societal change.
Readers react to photo of two men kissing (The Washington Post)

Immature love says I love you because I need you. Mature love says I need you because I love you.
Rev Run via Twitter