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When Racism Meets Masturbation

It all happened so fast…

I woke up like I always do. If up to me, I prefer having “me time” in the morning; it starts the day off right. I was in the mood for some thugged-out Latin action, so I turned to one of my favorite smut sites: bilatinmen (NSFW).

Usually I don’t watch solos, but their new update was this handsome mofo Sly. “Oh he’s hot. This should do.” I assumed the position, grabbed the lube and began to watch the video.


Relevant background:
1. I used to work in the adult video industry, so I always watch the interview to hear the questions/follow the story-line. My favorite sex research is porn research.

3. This particular cameraman/producer (I think his name is Angel) is one of my favorite in the industry. He jokes with the models, asks interesting questions and caters to the fetish folk (ie. He always gets a shot of the feet for the foot fetish people. How nice.)

2. I’m fascinated by tattoos and piercings. I don’t have any; not even my ears pierced. It’s one of the reasons why I love bilatinmen so much: many of their models have that stereotypical Southern California cholo look, with lots of tattoos. Sly, in fact has “nymph” tattooed on the shaft of his penis (score!).

Anyway, so the video starts off well enough. Sly’s explaining his tattoos and gang affiliation (I’m sorry I’m not too familiar with the gangs in California…apparently the rose on his face means something). He undresses and begins to touch himself.

Then the video gets a little weird. One shot reveals there are two other people in the room (???) and as he begins to jerk off I read the rest of his tattoos on his chest and arms. Then I see it:


I panicked:
What the hell? Why doesn’t he like Black people?! What did we ever do to him? Do I keep jerking off? This Astroglide ain’t cheap, we can’t just waste it. Do I call customer service?! (can you imagine how that conversation would’ve went?)

Hello Anthony, how can I help you?
Yes, I’d like to cancel my membership.
Oh. I’m sorry to hear that. Is there something wrong?
Yes, one of your models Sly doesn’t like Black people.
Sir, it’s OK, he can’t see you through the screen.
That’s not the point!!

At this point, the conversation in my head took so long my morning wood was completely ruined.

Now don’t go starting boycotts, sending Angel nasty emails and all that. I’ve met some employees from the site at industry events and they’re good people. In fact, Angel was nice enough to include some behind the scene footage to explain the tattoo (I know I’m not the only one who could read it). Listen to Sly’s response:

Wait, what? His mother approves of his gangbanging?!

Often when I tell people there is no safe space as a black gay male they think I’m being dramatic. But trust me, nowhere is safe: even in my own bed.

Quotes of the Week – Ending 10.10.09

When you have to say no shade, 9 times outta 10 it’s shade.
_ayoobeez via Twitter

Black people are hypocritical. One one hand you vilify black gay men, then act surprised when they hide their sexual identity. Can’t have it both ways.
Patrik-Ian Polk via Twitter

Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.
Chico Debarge via Myspace

(after buying a horrible pretzel in Times Square)
Eating a pretzel that tastes like a hot dog is like sucking a dick that tastes like vagina. It’s still good, but kills the whole experience.

The human mind is like Van Halen. If you just pull out one piece and keep replacing it, it just degenerates.
Topher – Dollhouse Season 2

I don’t even hide the Astroglide anymore. It’s right on my nightstand next to the lotion. I’m a grown man dammit.

Bottoms use their hole as their heart – Kaseem Williams, NY
Ranity via Twitter

Son, people will always try and fuck you. Don’t waste your life planning for a fucking, just be alert when your pants are down.
Shit My Dad Says via Twitter